Running out of Time

I am a lova of another. I have offered all and saved none for myself. I feel like I'm the creepy girl in the Ring trapped in the well. It should never be recommended to leave someone just because they are lacking. No one is perfect right? At this age a very important lesson is learned. Some people have the "perfect" relationships...something you would see on the office with Jim & Pam...or on the Cosby show with Cliff and Claire. Those people are very fortunate, but their plight may still end up the same.

 When you're in a relationship with someone who is lacking your first instinct if you love them, is to be there for them and cover them. Then...this is where love takes you to school....you realize that you are unhappy. How did this happen? You love the person so much? This happens for some because going into their relationship they didn't know who they were. Then once they have developed a sense of self or desires, needs, and or wants...their partners no longer can meet their needs and they are just stuck. Then there are others who know who they are, but pride themselves on being relationship philanthropists and they survive as "True Romantics" in spite of themselves. They call themselves seeing "potential", this equates to them losing a lot and not getting there needs met fully. As women we shouldn't be scared to ask for a fulfilling relationship....because men expect and receive one from us. Sometimes you have to purposely decide to love yourself as much as you love someone else. Play fair and communicate your needs! If your needs are not being met don't be afraid to let them know they are running out of time.

"Lend yourself to others, but give yourself to yourself"

Michel de Montaigne

Butterfly...

Now Twenty-six years young, I am starting to notice a trend amongst  my friends. Friends now do things like have a glass of wine with dinner, and other pinky figure up adult things of the sort. Now, I by no means think young people should not save for their retirement or plan responsibly for their futures.  However, these actions do not seem genuine, but instead like acts from a  play that their parents starred in.  I get we need direction, but as I mentioned in a previous post, does adulthood mean we have to let go of fun? Can't we have both? 

Just like a Butterfly we must all experience transformation

Maybe we have to  let go of who we were , to become who we will be?  But why do we act like we have no control of the outcome. Like the only option is to be boring. ...lol...If I take the blue pill as oppose to the red pill, will I have a more interesting life?  These are just questions??? I wanted to pose to you all. I have made my decision..I refuse to conform! I will  be a responsible adult and all that jazz ...but I will bravely cultivate  a life  that will not  sacrifice fulfillment  for a role in that reoccurring play.

Spring 2011 Vol. 1..

Although today we feel like we are very much in the middle of a snow tornado, we are only a few months out from Spring. Technically..flowers should be blooming and the rain should start on March 21st. With Groundhog's day approaching, February 2nd, I know I am not alone hoping and praying that  that damn brown furry looking thing does not see his shadow!..lol..anyway readers this is the first volume of fashion to covet for the spring. Please see eye candy below.

Pic: Marc Jacobs Spring/Summer 2011-Major trends this season include slits and big botanical hair pins.

Pic: Z Spoke by Zac Posen Spring/Summer 2011-Bright colors and mini crinolines

Pic: Rodarte Spring/Summer 2011- Long skirts and mixed patterns.

Trend Spotlight....Hair!

What is old is new again...Trends I am forecasting for this year were all rocked on the mane of this inspirational singer....

My favorite look for the year, a loose crimp 

Miss You...because you were One in A Million...

Sometimes when we move forward its good to take a look in the rear view mirror to see where we are coming from. Today was a.."Back in day ...when I was young, I'm not a kid anymore"... kind of day. I was thinking about what my next step would be in self discovery, and then I began to remember all that I had come out of and the dreams that I had purposely forgot about. I found a Resolution...I began to listen to the therapeutic melodies of R&B's late angel Aaliyah. I could not believe it had already been almost ten years since we said goodbye to her. I began to think about her career at the time of her passing. She was the "IT" girl, she was making black beauty commercial and irresistible. She was More Than A Woman...At the time of her passing she had already accomplished so much, but it was clear to all that she was just beginning to reach the true potential of what her career should have been. What if the cliche saying "Tomorrow is not promised to anyone" was true? What have I accomplished? Am I at a place where I feel like I'm reaching my goals? Today, looking back at myself ten years ago, at age 16 watching an Aaliyah video trying to figure out the choreography....re-focused me. It reminded me that back then, I realized that if a girl from Detroit could make the country fall in love with her, because of what she loved to do. That I too could do what I loved to do and be bold in it! So as we continue to move forward in another year, maybe we should think back to our Aaliyah days where we may have stashed some of our dreams away, and bring them back driving them forward into fruition...Because I Care 4 U, I'm going to remind you that At Your Best you are love and a positive motivating force....That is Hot Like Fire!!!

Fazhion Addict!!!

In this blog I would like to introduce a new topic of discussion for my fellow, twenty, thirty, etc. somethings...The website is my new fashion blog. On this site you will be able to find amazing designer pieces for affordable prices and see new/different trends transition from the runway to the street. Love or hate it there is a little something I believe for everyone. Visit the link below:

www.boutiques.com, search for: FazhionAddict.

I want to use this opportunity to introduce you to a designer you should know..

NAEEM KHAN


Naeem Khan (born May 21, 1958 in Mumbai, India) is an Indian-born, American fashion designer. He is the designer and CEO for Naeem Khan, which was launched in 2003. His designs have been worn by celebrities including Beyonce Knowles, Carrie Underwood, Eva Longoria Parker and Brooke Shields, and by First Lady Michelle Obama.


Ready to Wear Spring 2011 Collection:

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One of the hardest things about being a woman is sex! A lot of women never get that weak in the knees lava everywhere type of intensity from sex. However, many women do... The myth behind the perfect orgasm is concentration. We  have to concentrate on our climax like we're trying to figure out a nutrition label on the back of a box Oreos.... Another thing.... we have to stop faking it..lol..,although it gives our men a sense of accomplishment, we're really enabling their bad sexual habits. Don't be lazy, if you teach them...you will cum!