Say bye bye to old "friends"...

As we go into the new year, this is always a good time to do a little in house cleaning. You know that one friend you have kind of kept around over the years that you truly have nothing in common with anymore? Let them go...although its great to have friends that have been in your life for a long time, if there is no longer a functional friendship and you only talk to them when its their birthday or thanksgiving or christmas...move on!! Now this may sound harsh, but if the friendship is not really a part of your life any longer, what is the point of holding on to it? Are you trying to honor a friendship that was once there? Clean house! Cherish the people who are in your life now, and the old friends that you are still close with.

Dear Sweetheart,...

As a young woman its very difficult to know what you really want. Sometimes the very qualities you pray for in a man end up coming in the wrong percentages. Sometimes he's 50% emotional, instead of the 30% you really needed. Other times he's 10% ambitious when you were hoping for a sweetheart who was more like 60%. Sweetheart, I loved you please don’t misunderstand that. I loved you so much that I tried to take what you presented just to repackage it into something I could live with. That wasn’t fair to you, you deserve to be accepted for who you truly are. Although it hurt to let you go....I knew I could not continue to stay. So what fills my days now you may wonder...nothing...I am single, getting myself together physically, spiritually, and financially. I go on dates with the local boys (not men, as of yet, but I'll keep you posted..lol..) I spend time with a network of equally accomplished women, and I am happy; but I don’t have my sweetheart. Hows you dos honey? Is life treating you okay? Am I allowed to tell you that I will always love you in my own way? Sweetheart you weren’t what I wanted then...its true, but that should take anything from you. Sweetheart you were genuine, that’s not something a lot of men can say. Dear Sweetheart...take care of you.

The power of the pudussy....

Ladies, we have heard this saying that we have all the power....guys even tells us we have the power, but then why do we feel so powerless sometimes? We feel anything but powerful when guys start to show their asses! We need to start a movement ladies....let’s take our power back!! Now, I am fully aware that I will get some backlash from my dick loving sistas that will do anything for a lay. I understand, but hear me out....Most guys are really not that good at it anyway, others are okay good at best...a stellar lay is really rare. So while you waiting on that stellar lay, what are you dealing with? The actual guy and all of their nuances. Ladies if we remove sex from the equation we will ALWAYS have power. I do believe some of my classy sistas know this, but ALL of us need to live by this homage. At the end of the day guys want sex. Hence, today's lesson. Train your man, don’t necessarily handle him in the Shante Smith way, but make sure he knows what you like and is that before you drop any trow. A footnote to that is learn a little about him too. When we take sex out of the equation, we see clearly. Is he really what you want? Yes, I said what YOU want...lol...If he's just Mr. Right now decide if you feel like dealing with him right now. I know this thought may seem easier said than done, but it works I've tested it! Results may vary....but generally you waste less time on losers, there is no emotional baggage attached to the end of the relationship, and your v-jay jay stays intact for the real thing...Mr. Right.

Two can play that game...

Last night I watched a classic. Two can play that game starring Vivica Fox and Morris Chestnut. It is so applicable to dating in the For the love of Ray J/Chance of Love days we are in. The constant game that we feel must be played to keep men interested and in line. Vivica played a character named Shante Smith, a woman who knows how to break a man in, however in the end Shante changes her ways. My question to you is do Shante Smith's in the REAL world win the man? We all know the saying that nice guys finish last, but what about nice girls....where do they end up?