For Colored Girls...

When I saw this movie I did not recognize the reflection. It exposed the reality of what being a black woman really looks like, oppose to societies' funny mirror image of what the experience should be. The movie betrayed us, telling the audience our biggest secret. Rumors about how badly we want to be loved, but are rarely given the opportunity to experience it. We love on purpose and leave ourselves open on purpose.  

As black women we become friends with insecurity in early childhood. Insecurity tells us what we should expect from the world. Insecurity teaches us how to wear our disabilities of being black and a woman. Insecurity does not waste time telling us fairy tales, because they do not apply to us. Where is our knight in shining armor? Where is our happy ending? Do little colored girls get read "once upon a time" stories too, or is that just for Sondra, Denise, Vanessa, and Rudy Huxtable?

My love is too protected to really let anyone in. Don't let people continue to walk away with your spirit. The perpetual myth of what a black woman is, and the propaganda of what she should look like. How she will wage war on anything in her sight. She will definitely have an attitude, she must have a neck roll, and she will probably flare quickly or have a temper.

We top all statistics being most likely to have stomach cancer, diabetes, obesity, high blood pressure, to have HIV, and our babies are most likely to suffer from low birth weight or even infant mortality. Where are the statistics stating what we are more likely to excel at due to our complexion?

Why are we feed the shattered glass pie? We are expected to be strong women. Only positively known for being optimal nurtures, cooks, and strong matriarchs of our families. Yet and still the world does not know...we are much more. I think the key is to first recognize what the world wants us to believe about ourselves and not be offended by it. Take pride in showing all who we really are. We should not be scared to be vulnerable. Fear is what allows us to lean on our negative stereotype. F@#! society and the role they want us to play...do it only like you can and reshape the way the world sees you. Not for them, but for yourself, because that is where our generational healing will really begin.